Nicole Kidman Opens Up About Marriage & Love Life

From The Beginning

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban, one of Hollywood’s most beloved couples, did not have an easy journey. The couple has recently revealed how they got through their struggles, why Urban cries once a month, and what they think makes a successful marriage. One half of the Aussie couple, Kidman’s career kicked off in Australia and her role in 1989’s Dead Calm gave her the breakthrough she deserved. In 1990, she made her Hollywood debut in the racing film Days of Thunder, where she starred alongside Tom Cruise.

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Kidman went on to appear in many other films and earned herself worldwide recognition. She had many leading roles, including the superhero film Batman Forever, the erotic thriller Eyes Wide Shut, and she received two consecutive Academy Award for Best Actress nominations for the musical Moulin Rouge! As her acting career progressed, her personal life became more public and gossip began to surface in Hollywood. After meeting Tom Cruise while filming Days of Thunder (1989), the on-screen pair began dating.

The Couple’s Journey

Cruise and Kidman married within a year of dating. The Hollywood stars were unable to have biological children together and adopted two children, Isabella and Connor. However, in 2001 the couple announced their separation and ultimate divorce. Despite the breakup, Kidman explained to Ladies’ Home Journal that Cruise still remained a big part of her life, “To me, he was just Tom, but to everybody else, he is huge. But he was lovely to me and I loved him. I still love him.”

Nicole Post-Cruise

Despite her heartbreak, the next few years were quite outstanding for Nicole. She starred in many successful films, including The Others (2001) where she received a Best Actress nomination and Cold Mountain in 2003. In 2002, Kidman won critical praise for her portrayal of Virginia Woolf in The Hours. The same year, she won numerous critics’ awards, including her first BAFTA, third Golden Globe, and the Academy Award for Best Actress. Forbes magazine ranked her the world’s fourth highest-paid actress in 2006.

Kidman’s Love Life

After Cruise, Kidman went on to date actor Adrien Brody. Rumors then spread that she was involved in an affair with co-star Jude Law during their filming of Cold Mountain. Allegations spread that this affair caused the breakup of his marriage, yet both denied this. Kidman then dated Lenny Kravitz from 2003 to 2004 and this was followed by Robbie Williams, who confirmed he had a short romance with Kidman on her yacht in summer 2004. Finally, in 2005 at the G’Day USA gala, which honors Australians in Los Angeles, she met someone special…

Kidman’s New Man

The New Zealand-born country music singer and musician was struggling to get his breakthrough when he met Nicole. In 1988, Urban formed a band that went on to tour throughout Australia. Two years later he won an award at an Australian country music festival, which led to a record contract with EMI Music Australia. Urban relocated to Nashville and formed a band, The Ranch. The band’s album suffered poor sales. Urban then developed a medical condition and the band ended.

Urban’s Low Point

In 1999, Keith went solo, releasing his own album Keith Urban which received critical acclaim. Before meeting Nicole, Keith Urban wasn’t in a healthy place. Urban was suffering from health issues and despite his album success, these issues persisted. When he met Nicole, his self-esteem was at an ultimate low, “I’d never have thought she’d see anything in a guy like me,” he told talk show host Andrew Denton, “I thought she was way out of my league. Of course.”

Plucking Up The Courage

Urban continued to tell Denton, “Somebody had given me her number and I had it in my pocket for a while. I kept looking at it thinking, ‘If I call this number, she’s going to answer. I don’t know what [to] say,'” he revealed. Despite the instantaneous attraction, Nicole later revealed on the Ellen show that Urban took four months to call her, but when he did, “We started talking and we talked and talked and talked and talked, and it was effortless.”

The Unlikely Couple

Luckily for Urban, Nicole was still available and the two became an unlikely item. After only a year of dating, Urban got down on one knee and popped the question. Nicole did not seem to mind about the short time frame before the proposal, “I kind of like getting married and then getting to know each other,” she said, “it’s a more natural process.” Although barely knowing each other long, the couple got married soon after at a beautiful chapel in Sydney in front of many high-profile celebrities.

Rough Patch

Like many Hollywood celebrities, it was not long until the happy couple reached a rough patch in their relationship. In October, only four months after their marriage, Nicole Kidman decided to put “love in action” and save her husband from the ongoing battle with his health. She put an intervention together to help save him from his life-threatening behavior. This was the realization that Keith needed to turn his life around and he was finally determined to make the change.

A Recovered Man

The Australian actress admitted Urban to the Betty Ford Center in Palm Springs, California, an institution to help him recover from his problems. Urban described his wives actions as “divine.” In an interview, he said, “It was divine. I mean, ‘divine intervention,’ but it’s true, it really was. The timing was absolutely divine.” Despite having attended the institution before, this time around Urban was ready to take on his demons, after all, he now had the help of his wife. Three months later, Urban left the center a recovered man.

Met At The Right Time

Kidman canceled a press tour so she could support Urban during his rehab and visit him. Urban said later that facing this big challenge so early in their marriage brought the two closer.  He told People magazine, “Definitely we both met each other exactly at the right time,” he continued, “She said early on that she wanted to be brave with me. I feel there was something else at work, bringing us together and then just continuing to watch over us.”

Going Public

Kidman stuck by her husband through the bad times. Though she had kept her relationship troubles with Cruise hidden, her decision with Keith to go public about his rehab journey was intentional and they understood the repercussions. “You can try and hide it, smoke and mirrors and all, but then how do I visit every weekend?” she told Vanity Fair in 2007. Urban publically stated that he was sorry for the pain he had caused those close to him—especially his wife.

In A Better Place

12 years on from his therapy, Keith is sober and in a seemingly much better place. Looking back at his struggles, he revealed that he was not ready to recover before he met Nicole. “It had nothing to do with whether life was good or bad. It had nothing to do with any of that stuff,” he said. “It was something I should have dealt with many, many years before I met Nic, and tried to, but it just never took. I wasn’t ready. Simple as that.”

The Start Of Life

“Meeting her and getting married wasn’t life-changing, it was life-beginning,” Urban told CBS. “It was literally, like, ‘OK, life starts.'” In 2008, two years after Urban had recovered from his issues, he and Kidman were able to start their lives over and build a family. Kidman and Urban settled in Nashville and she gave birth to their first child, and her first biological child, Sunday Rose. Two years later, their second child, Faith Margaret, arrived into their lives through surrogacy.

Dealing With His Emotions

After previously having confessed in an interview with Rolling Stone magazine that he cries once a month, this year Urban has finally opened up about what it is exactly that makes him so emotional. In 2016, Urban admitted, “When I haven’t cried in a while, I can tell I get pent-up. Then maybe once a month I have a good cry, one big avalanche of a torrential downpour, and I feel amazing for weeks afterward. The streets are cleaned, the skies are blue, there’s no humidity and it’s beautiful.”

Accumulative Things

When quizzed by veteran journalist Andrew Denton, 58, as to what makes him cry, Keith said it doesn’t take much for him to tear up, “‘Oh well, anything. [It’s] accumulative, accumulative things that didn’t really warrant a cry at the time, and they add up you know.”  The 50-year-old country singer continued, “I mean little things, [the] passing of time, kids growing up, the loss of friends, loved ones for all manner of reasons, all of it,” the four-time Grammy award-winner continued.

Can’t Stop Kissing

In May, the couple, who have been married since 2006, was snapped at the Lincoln Center’s American Songbook Gala at Alice Tully Hall in New York City. The Big Little Lies star blew everyone away in her gold Givenchy gown, while her husband lived up to her look in his black tuxedo. As the two took to the stage before honoring HBO CEO Richard Plepler, they turned to each other and leaned in for a very public kiss.

Looking Forward

Despite the early setback in their marriage, the couple remains strong even 12 years on, almost a record for Hollywood couples. Sharing the title with couples like Victoria and David Beckham, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, and Beyonce and Jay-Z. However, with both being on busy schedules and having homes all over,including in Los Angeles, NYC, Nashville, and Australia, the couple can spend days to almost weeks apart. So what has kept Kidman and Urban’s love life going strong?

Revealing All

Recently, Nicole Kidman has come clean about her secret tips on how to have a lasting marriage as she and her husband celebrate their 12th wedding anniversary. Interviews have revealed that Kidman has admitted to having her own special methods of making things work. As many celebrity couples have to suffer from constant separations for considerable amounts of time, rather than relying on therapy sessions, these two have come up with a specific rule for when either one of them leaves the house…

Nicole’s First Secret

Nicole revealed to InStyle magazine in July 2017 that the couple has a very particular phone custom when they’re away from each other for long. “Keith and I don’t ever text,” she revealed. It is a known fact that texting can lead to miscommunication and Nicole and Keith seem to be avoiding this, “And I’ve had the thing where I reread texts and I’m like, ‘What does that mean?’ and then read it to somebody and go ‘Can you interpret that?’ I don’t want that between my lover and I.”

Keeping It Intimate

“We’ve done this since the very beginning. The reason it started at the beginning was because I didn’t know how to text and it just kind of worked for us. So now we don’t,” Kidman told Parade magazine. Nicole told DuJour that they will text “Once in a blue moon” but they will just end up texting, “I want to hear your voice.” The couple admitted that they also do not email each other in order to keep the relationship as intimate and personal as possible.

Nicole’s Second Secret

Besides calling each other, when Kidman feels technology-savvy enough, she will attempt to use Facetime. Nicole has also acknowledged that she and her husband try to never spend more than three days apart. Despite their busy schedules, she says this is not hard, “I think I’ve reached a point in my life where I’ve slowed down a lot, so it’s not difficult. My priority is very much keeping my family together and not being away from them.” The couple would rather follow each other around the world than spend days apart.

Nicole’s Third Secret

Lastly, Kidman’s told interviewers that the couple keeps a healthy marriage by being open with each other, no secrets. “We never tell anybody any advice about their relationship or think that we have a secret. We just approach it with humility and hope and just really love hanging out,” she said. “I mean it’s that simple. We love spending time together. We have a lot of fun together and we just choose each other. If there is one person I can hang out with, it’s him and the girls and that’s it.”

Not Afraid Of PDA

It seems Kidman and Urban are not afraid of public displays of affection, given their public Instagram messages for each other. While Kidman uploaded, “Remembering 12 years ago today at a church in Manly, Australia. Still feels like it was yesterday. I’m a lucky woman. Happy Anniversary Baby,” complemented by a short video clip of their special day, Urban posted an everyday picture of the couple saying, “12 years of celestial synergized soul dancing. Happy anniversary Babygirl!!! I love you SO much. – KU.”

A Normal Couple

When the pair are both at home, they live their lives just like any other normal couple and family. “On weekends, we just hang – wake up, get the paper,” she told InStyle magazine, “We’re very, very tight.” The happy family revealed the inside of their house over the summer, with Kidman posting an Instagram video of Sunday and Faith screaming in terror as their mother caught a giant spider in their backyard. “I’m having to take care of this spider. Help!” she says, holding up the spider under a glass.

Work Life Balance

Keith explained in an interview the struggle between balancing work and family, “I think certainly work life, home life balance is such a rolling reality for so many people. And trying to reconcile those things that all happen in a certain small window of time in your life.” Keith prefers to fly home even if he is touring the world, “If there’s a way for me to get home after a show — even if it gets me there at 1 in the morning — then I can at least have breakfast (and) lunch with the family,” he said.

Nice Little Voices

It seems the happy couple’s daughters Sunday, age 10, and Faith, age 7, did not fall far from the tree. The country singer revealed in his interview with Denton that his daughters like to sing and play the piano. Urban told the world, “They sing, they’ve got nice little voices,” He also explained, “We have a piano in the house they both play a little bit of.” When asked if the girls may pursue a career in singing or acting like their parents, Keith replied, “We’ll see what happens.”

Strange Relationship

Although seeming open-minded in his interview, Keith has mentioned in the past that his girls prefer his rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle over their mom’s Hollywood career. Despite their love of music, the country music superstar who released 11 studio albums to date, has said his girls are “conflicted” by music, as it does keep their dad away on tour. “It’s a funny thing. I wonder if they have a strange relationship with music because it’s what takes Daddy away. So they have a mixed feeling about that,” he said.

The Future

As the couple reveals to the world that no texting, no secrets, and no long-distances are their ways of keeping a lasting and happy marriage, the world continues to look up to the Hollywood couple in awe. Most recently, the couple attended the 2018 Time 100 Gala where Nicole was named one of the most influential people this year. While Urban sang her praises, he has recently announced he will be bringing his current Graffiti U world tour back home to Australia as part of a working holiday to spend time with his family.